There's Only One Way To Overcome Your Marriage Problems
Self-Improvement Programs Will Never Provide Lasting Change
We are Paul and Nannette Klein and we teach Christians "God’s Blueprint for Marriage" to help you get over the past, resolve conflicts and cultivate genuine intimacy so you can have a marriage that glorifies God.
You brought baggage into your marriage...everybody does.
Some of it, you aren't even aware of.
And some of it you've kept secret forever.
The past is over, but the fear, anger, guilt and shame remain.
They continue to affect your thoughts and actions, as well as your relationships.
Do you feel like your marriage is a sham because you try to hide the past while shame eats away at your soul?
Or do you go to bed after another disappointing day only to lose sleep under the crushing guilt that you failed to live up to an impossible standard that can't be met?
Or you're so disappointed in your spouse that that you think you married the wrong person?
That they'll never change and your marriage will totally crumble when you can’t take it anymore and lose control?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, we have good news for you!
Jesus makes it possible to get over the past, resolve conflicts, heal your marriage and build an authentic relationship on a solid foundation of genuine intimacy.
We know how frustrating it is to be a Christian who wants to live a life that honors God but can't find practical help for every day marriage problems.
We know what it feels like to hear empty promises from self-help programs and other worldly methods that claim they can “fix” your problems.
The world promotes self-improvement as a means to overcome all your problems. And even as true believers, we were tempted to swallow the lie that our performance and achievements were essential for God’s approval and blessings.
But perverting the truths of the gospel drives us to live by man-made rules and use behavior modification tools to keep us “in line and out of trouble” instead of living by faith and walking in the Spirit.
To get weighed down with the demands of the “law” and measure our worth by accomplishments and the world’s approval, instead of our identity in Christ.
It took us time to recognize it was self effort trying to make us better and resolve our problems but its the same sin the Pharisees committed and Jesus condemned.
There's only one cure for broken people with guilty pasts and broken marriages.
It's the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Jesus doesn't "fix" your problems.
He transforms YOU!
PAUL:
"I grew up in a Christian church but it had zero effect on my life. I found porn as a young kid and it magnetized me with a power I couldn't resist.
Suddenly, porn seemed to be everywhere I looked but it wasn't until years after I was married when the Internet made it so easily accessible that my downward spiral began.
From then on, porn had a grip on me that I couldn't escape. It changed the way I viewed myself, my wife and our marriage."
NANNETTE:
"I was 23 years old, strong-willed and independent when I got married. Divorce was an option before I even said, "I do."
Fast forward 10 rocky years later to when the Lord called me out of the kingdom of darkness and started showing me a different perspective on marriage.
After a few years, I thought I had become everything a good Christian wife should be. But in reality, I was still trying to build my own little kingdom...while my husband separately built his."
Fortunately, God took our marriage more seriously than we did and taught us what it meant to have Him stake a claim on our lives.
The stakes were higher than we ever imagined!
God used a pornography addiction to get our attention and expose the true motives of our hearts that had been fooling us both for so long, just in different ways.
Through a series of long difficult trials, God transformed two selfish people into one united couple by getting us to focus on Christ instead of ourselves.
It was the WORST TIME EVER in our marriage, yet divorce was no longer an option.
The biggest crisis our marriage ever faced turned out to be the GREATEST BLESSING in the end.
We were forced to seek God's mercy and wisdom for solutions to problems we couldn't fix by ourselves.
For the first time in our lives, we truly began to understand the gospel we claimed to believe. The gospel is not just an offer for salvation. It is the person and work of Jesus Christ, who is the source of eternal life, as well as the model and power for living.
We came to understand that redemption through Jesus Christ had everything to do with our marriage!
With a higher view of the gospel, we gained a higher view of marriage and our motives changed. Identifying and aiming for the right target changed us both! And ultimately our marriage.
We rebuilt our marriage with Jesus as the focal point and now, 34 years later, we are amazed that He would use such broken vessels to promote His kingdom.
Now we look back on our past with gratitude. Our worst crisis became the springboard that transformed our marriage into something beyond anything we ever thought possible!
We know God can transform your marriage too!
The Truths That Will Transform Your Life
The mission of The Transformed Marriage is to provide you with biblical resources
and practical tools to help you follow God's Blueprint for Marriage.