There's Only One Way To Overcome Your Marriage Problems
12-Step and Self-Improvement Programs Will Never Provide Lasting Change
We are Paul and Nannette Klein and we teach Christians "God’s Blueprint for Marriage" to help you overcome the negative effects of pornography and cultivate true intimacy so you can have a marriage that glorifies God.
Has pornography turned your marriage into a sham and you’re fed up with trying to hide the secret sin while shame eats away at your soul?
Are you a porn addict going to bed after another disappointing day only to lose sleep under the crushing guilt that you failed again?
That your impulses got the best of you, that sensuality was more inviting than purity, that masturbation was more desirable than your wife?
Or are you the wife of a porn addict, thinking you married the wrong person?
You’re tired of trying to live up to an impossible standard that can't be met. That you’ll never be good enough for your husband, that he’ll never change and your marriage will totally crumble when you can’t take it anymore and lose control.
Whether you're a porn addict or the wife of one, you need to understand that it is possible to quit porn, heal your marriage and build an authentic relationship on a solid foundation of genuine intimacy.
We know how frustrating it is to be a Christian who wants to live a life that honors God but can't find help for the marriage being destroyed by sexual sin.
We know what it feels like to hear empty promises from 12-step programs and other worldly methods that claim they can “fix” your problems.
The world promotes self-improvement as a means to overcome pornography and even as true believers we were tempted to swallow the lie that our performance and achievements were essential for God’s approval.
But perverting the truths of the gospel drives us to live by man-made rules and use behavior modification tools to keep us “in line and out of trouble” instead of living by faith and walking in the Spirit.
To get weighed down with the demands of “law” and measure our worth by accomplishments and the world’s approval, instead of our identity in Christ.
It took time to recognize it was self effort trying to make us better and resolve our problems but its the same sin the Pharisees committed and Jesus condemned.
There's only one cure for a pornography addiction and a broken marriage.
It's the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Jesus doesn't "fix" your problems.
He transforms you!
"I grew up in a Christian church but it had zero effect on my life. I found porn as a young kid and it magnetized me with a power I couldn't resist.
Suddenly, porn seemed to be everywhere I looked but it wasn't until years after I was married when the Internet made it so easily accessible that my downward spiral began.
From then on, porn had a grip on me that I couldn't escape. It changed the way I viewed myself, my wife and our marriage."
"I was 23 years old, strong-willed and independent when I got married. Divorce was an option before I even said, "I do."
Fast forward 10 rocky years later to when the Lord called me out of the kingdom of darkness and started showing me a different perspective on marriage.
After a few years, I thought I had become everything a good Christian wife should be. But in reality, I was still trying to build my own little kingdom...while my husband separately built his."
Fortunately, God took our marriage more seriously than we did and taught us what it meant to have Him stake a claim on our lives.
The stakes were higher than we ever imagined!
God used a pornography addiction to get our attention and expose the true motives of our hearts that had been fooling us both for so long, just in different ways.
Through a series of long difficult trials, God transformed two selfish people into one united couple by getting us to focus on Christ instead of ourselves.
It was the WORST TIME EVER in our marriage, yet divorce was no longer an option.
The biggest crisis our marriage ever faced turned out to be the GREATEST BLESSING in the end.
We were forced to seek God's mercy and wisdom for solutions to problems we couldn't fix by ourselves.
For the first time in our lives, we truly began to understand the gospel we claimed to believe. The gospel is not just an offer for salvation. It is the person and work of Jesus Christ, who is the source of eternal life, as well as the model for living.
We came to understand that redemption through Jesus Christ had everything to do with our marriage!
With a higher view of the gospel, we gained a higher view of marriage and our motives changed. Identifying and aiming for the right target changed us both! And ultimately our marriage.
We rebuilt our marriage with Jesus as the focal point and now, 31 years later, we are amazed that He would use such broken vessels to promote His kingdom.
Now we look back on our past with gratitude. Our worst crisis became the springboard that transformed our marriage into something beyond anything we ever thought possible!
We know God can transform your marriage too!
The Truths That Will Transform Your Life
The mission of The Transformed Marriage is to provide you with biblical resources that teach you
God's Blueprint for Marriage and help bear your burden during this difficult season of your marriage.
We do this by admonishing the unruly, encouraging the fainthearted, helping the weak, being patient with all.
(1 Thessalonians 5:14)